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An Opinon About How Ilena Functions:
Victims, Bullies and Victim Bullies
Dean Dad, whose wisdom and insight should be required reading for every
academic, shares something valuable from a book he's been reading, The
College Administrator's Survival Guide: the concept of the "victim bully":
Gunsalus distinguishes between traditional, assertive bullies, who throw
their weight around with bluster and force, and 'victim bullies,' who uses
claims of having been wronged to gain leverage over others. (pp. 123-4)
Unlike simple passive-aggression, victim bullies use accusations as
weapons, and ramp up the accusations over time.
Unlike a normal person, who would slink away in shame as the initial
accusations are discredited, a victim bully lacks either guilt or shame,
honestly believing that s/he has been so egregiously wronged in some cosmic
way that anything s/he does or says is justified in the larger scheme of
things.
So when the initial accusations are dismissed, the victim bully's first
move is a sort of double-or-nothing, raising the absurdity and the stakes
even more.
Peter Bowditch (ratbags.com) - So Ilena
Rosenthal steals and lies. Is anybody surprised?
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